Are you ready to be engaged? Are you ready to get married? Is he or she the right one? Are you educated enough about marriage, relationships, family to make your marriage successful?
Whether you are already engaged, or about to become engaged, this is the quiz that will get you thinking about what lies ahead! Going forward in the right direction instead of off a cliff is a matter of choice!
Instructions:
1) Carefully read the question… there are no trick questions!
2) Pick out the answer you believe to be true, and the one you think is correct =)
3) Click on the wrong answers too, so you can see if you agree with the explanations
4) Count your correct answers!
1. How can I be sure that my fiancé is the right one for me?
People who are fatalistic about who they marry can succeed if they never have expectations of their future spouse, unfortuantely an unreasonable thing to ask of anyone
Although it is nice to hear sweet things about our intended, the truth is you already know things about them that nobody else can. Digging into who they are, deep down, is an absolute necesity because people don’t change after they get married and their weaknesses become even a greater burden
Sometimes there are pressures that can force us to do something, and we pretend it will all work out because of our good intentions. We have free will so we can make choices based on our honest observations and calculations. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and we deserve what we get, good or bad
Just because the sciences of relationships and families is not commonly recognized doesn’t mean it isn’t available. If you do/did your homework and put in the time there is every reason to believe your marriage will work. Nobody should take even one step without knowing where they are going and that the footing is secure. Those who are smart will be happy
2. What is the best time to have our wedding: Spring, Summer, Fall or Winter?
Why not make everything just as you would like it? As long as you have studied relationships, marriage, marital communication and other associated topics your wedding day will be a step into a secure future
Why not make everything just as you would like it? As long as you have studied relationships, marriage, marital communication and other associated topics your wedding day will be a step into a secure future
Why not make everything just as you would like it? As long as you have studied relationships, marriage, marital communication and other associated topics your wedding day will be a step into a secure future
Typically couples plan their wedding with abandon because it is a blessed day that presages a long family line into the future. Unfortunately we have lost too many marriages due to too little marital education. Be wise and secure by studying the most important topic of your life: your marriage!
3. When is the best time to plan a family?
Family preferences are very important and need to be part of the criteria for who you seriously date. If you have reached a point of being engaged without having done so it means there are far too many other important topics that need to be discussed. Don’t be afraid to bring them up now; later will probably be too late for openness and candor.
Couples who wait until commitments are made (exclusivity, engagement, etc.) find themselves experiencing resentment over issues that could have been resolved without ongoing drama. When people buy a house they scrutinize every little nook and cranny of the house, the deal and the future of their considered peoperty. Choosing your life’s partner requires far more investigation and agreements. It is the agreements of the parts that make the agreement to marriage valid. The importance of creating a family from a secure marriage cannot be understated. The statistics about what happens to individuals who come from broken homes, through no fault of their own, defines how important it is to make marriages too good to wreck. The descisions that go into deciding to have children are too important to take up after marriage, or even after engagement. Learning about marriage, in all its aspects, is a crucial responsibility, that happens to bring great joy
The knowledge required to have a successful family is far too extensive to risk trusting you will get what you need from even the most successful families. You need to get a full and objective education based on sound principles that work in all applications
Trusting intuition instead of investing your time in education is a cop-out or lack of appreciation for how much science has been accumulated in the areas of marriage and family. It is true that many sources, regulated or not, are unreliable, but it is up to you to choose a source of education that meets your challenges for efficacy
4. Should I share everything about my past with my fiancé?
There are some things we have done in the past which we would like to forget or wish never happened. Only those who are saints or have a terrible memory would say otherwise. Nobody should feel obligated to either reveal everything or expect to hear everything. On the other hand you are the one choosing, and learning about your fiancé’s past is the right thing to do
Love is spiritual in nature and is not dependent on a person’s attributes, which only act as doorways to the heart. However, we have to live in this world and in the society we are in, so who we are as a person and how we behave is important. Holding back vital information that will impact your future family can be seen as treacherous – not a good way to begin a marriage. So the choice about what is shared belongs to each of us. Appropriate discretion is not always easy to know but it is what should be strived for
This is correct. If you have a disease that is either contagious or terminal you need to share. If you had a fling when you got drunk and had sex with a stranger you need to share only with God
Some defensive individuals go into marriage as if it is a business deal and do not reach the degrees of intimacy that will prove love’s greatest rewards. Only love given is love received. Most confessions are only for the sake of the one confessing, while having an expectation of your future spouse to forget any and every past, yet hidden indescretion is unfair. You must choose wisely
5. How will we keep our love growing so we don’t end up like everyone else?
The “sex” aspect of a relationship is merely a wondeful way for a couple to connect at the heart/soul level. If it is all a couple has they will burn out and start looking for that missing ingredient. Dependence on sex in marriage is like anchoring a hot air balloon 10 feet off the ground; it just never allows you to experience the true potential of marriage
These 2 ingredients are so basic, yet so underutilized. The disrespectful behavior usually begins well before the wedding vows are exchanged, but it is only common sense and will not grow love
The unseen love flows between unseen souls. The mechanics and art of building love is little understood in our shallow society. Be different and learn how to make your love grow every single day forever.
Many couples have imagined their marriage would be rescued by having children. It would be like operating on an arm to save a leg
6. How important is it to involve our children if this is our second marriage?
This kind of thinking is what our society promotes in order to justify poor judgment on the part of those who divorce. Everyone thinks that they have great cause for divorce in their own case, but are disturbed by the statistics. The time to figure out the dynamics and stratagies for blending two families is well before the marriage, with the help from credible experts
Some say that it is a bad idea for any single parent to date or marry, but that extreme position is usually too radical. When handled well and when the kids are not forced to accept ideas that they have a problem with, things can usually be worked out. Life is never simple and blending families are complicated
This is true and not absolute. Every situation calls for a common-sense effort that may be ill-conceived. The blended family can work with patience, effort and acceptance of the fact that not all ideas will work and can be put aside for better ones. Never allow frustration to override love and protection for the children
Just because a blended family has many moving parts and can be seen as difficult doesn’t mean it is a bad idea. Living in a cave will avoid life’s challenges, too. When a couple forms the core of a new family the new family can do very well
7. Why do people in second marriages have worse divorce statistics than in first marriages?
Correct. If you don’t carefully pre-select your soul mate you will be stuck with a potential loser
Correct. If you think your divorce was all of your spouse’s fault you are in delusion and will ruin your new marriage too
Correct. Children are more than baggage and have tremendous needs which you are obligated to fulfil with love and compassion. They didn’t cause your divorce or their current predicament
Correct. Most people erroneously think that learning about a mistake means they won’t repeat it. To avoid ‘repeats’ one must become a different person, one who would never make that mistake
8. How do we talk about sensitive issues and keep the peace?
Avoiding difficult converstaions is like raising a guillotine a bit higher untill it comes down and chops off your head. A bit dramatic? Not really. Good communications builds trust while avoiding communication destroys trust. No relationship can last without trust
Although that might be a good stratagy to avoid escape it will not avoid ‘freaking out’. How you communicate is more important than where. Learning how is common sense
Nobody should be so afraid that they need to bring a third party into their relationship
Learning marital communication is as essential to healthy marriage as learning the rules of the road is to driving
9. How much personal information about my fiancé can I share with my best friend?
This is the correct answer and it is gospel. Your relationship with your soon-to-be spouse is only sacred if you treat it that way and you want it to be sacred in order to get the most out of it
Disaster! Of all the people who should trust you with private information none are more important than your spouse-to-be
Any reference about your sex life is taboo. Those who share such sensitive information are wreckless and self-destructive. Real life is not a TV sitcom
Hah! Never test your friendships with such a heavy burden
10. Where do we get good information about marriage?
Shallow one-liners and sexually oriented advice are a far cry from the principles based knowledge needed by modern society
We all know that entertainment is geared towards our morbid curiosity and that actors and screenwriters are, by and large, not good role models
There are definitely those who know something about various aspects of relationships, friendship and marriage. Some sources are excellent, while others are lacking. In time there will be mainstream studies on the sciences of relationships, marriage and families. Until that time one must challenge nearly everything one hears or reads
The Marriage Foundation is dedicated to those who express a desire to learn how to have successful marriages and families. The principles used as a basis for the courses offered are derived from Eastern psychology, all presented in a transparent way so the students will know exactly what any idea is based upon
Great Job!!
If you got less than 7 right, you better get signed up for the Engagement Course
If you got 9 or 10 right you are smoking! You are on the right track and we hope the Engagement Course will fill in some of the blanks and help you to have the best marriage imaginable
Read on for another great quiz!
When we find who we think might be the right one for marriage, we are never sure (unless we are sure) if our choice is correct. We bring them to our parents for dinner, we introduce them to our friends and we watch how other people react to them on dates, especially at restaurants. If we are new-agers, we compare our astrological signs. Some people even go to psychics or palm readers to get info from “the other side” or wherever it comes from. Compatibility is very important. So I have come up with the ultimate Am I Ready To Get Married Quiz.
Be sure to answer the questions as honestly as you can. But before you begin this test I need to ask you some preliminary questions. All of these questions must be answered in the affirmative (yes) before proceeding with the test. If you cannot answer yes to the first set of questions you must do what it takes to answer yes; then you may take the Am I Ready To Get Married Quiz.
Have you determined what traits are most important to you in a mate?
Have you prioritized the traits?
Have you identified the “can’t live without” traits?
Have you identified the “won’t tolerate” traits?
Did you challenge your own answers by comparing them to your other answers?
Example: He must be kind was a number 5 priority and he must be tall was number 3. You need to answer honestly if you would prefer a mean guy who is tall over a short guy who is kind.
Did you take time and then go back to challenge your answers?
There is one other important thing you must do before you take the Am I Ready To Get Married Quiz. You have to admit that no matter how good a job you may do in determining your “best” mate, there is still the problem of not having perfect wisdom. So the other thing to do is pray; I’m serious. Try this… “Dear God, I know You like us to do our best and I promise to do that, but I need Your personal help and attention because I want a life mate and a lifetime is a long time. I want to be happy and have a great family. Would You help me, please? Would you introduce us? If I get a little ahead of you, God, and pick a creep without knowing it, would You protect me by ending it, please? Thank you, God. I will try to think of You whenever I meet someone, and I’ll listen to my conscience, so I can hear Your silent hints.”
Ready for the Am I Ready To Get Married Quiz?
Questions for ladies first
Is he drop-dead gorgeous? If he is, remember that looks improve with love and diminish in importance over time.
Does he love you like crazy? One of the greatest traps is when women love men because men love them. The kind of man he is outweighs how much he loves you.
Is he romantic, socially graceful, and generous? These are dating techniques used by savvy men. You are picking a husband and father for your kids, open your eyes.
Remember your list? That’s the best way to know what you need in a husband. Make sure you are being practical because your future children depend on you doing a good job. Make sure they have the best dad who ever lived and you have the best husband who ever lived. Most men marry the first woman who will have them (sorry guys) so it is up to you to select a quality man and treat him right.
My advice for guys is not all that different. Men should overcome their fear of loneliness and rejection. Putting together a list of desirable and undesirable traits is a must. It is also a must that you stick to it, because there can be no greater hell than sharing your life with a person who you knew from the beginning you should never have been with. Don’t become a divorce statistic. Be clear about what you want and don’t want and then be patient.
Marriage is meant to be joyful. But it can go the other way too if you go into it blindly and without thinking through what is important to you.
