According to nearly every survey I have seen, poor communication is either the number 1 or 2 reason that couples believe their marriage is suffering. This should come as no surprise. Its not like kids are taught communication skills in school. At home all the skills of communication are pretty much driven towards getting what they want. They/we never learn the rules for mutually beneficial communication from real experts.

When we do get some lessons from experts its usually only in the field of negotiations; again, its all about getting what we want; not expressing our heart’s love… Ah ha! Expressing your heart’s love is exactly what marital communication is supposed to be all about!

The primary purpose of communication in marriage is to express your heart’s love. Why? Because expressing love will raise the level of joy and happiness in your marriage; isn’t that what you want? Isn’t that a huge part of why you got married?

Sometimes we allow the mundane, day to day so-called necessities of life to distract us from the real meaning of life. When we don’t feed our love into our marriage we are starving it, and each other.

Try these 7 ideas in your marriage. They are guaranteed to improve your marital communications

1) Before you speak to your spouse ask yourself if what you are about to say is one of the 3 C’s. You never want to criticize, complain to, or condemn your spouse. They are your best friend and it is good to treat them that way

2) Find legitimate reasons to compliment your spouse’s appearance, efforts, or intelligence. If you sincerely do this at least twice a day (more is better) your spouse will be a happier person. They are your best friend; it is good to treat them that way

3) Tell your spouse “I love you” for no reason whatsoever; they are your lover and it is good to remind each other

4) Any time you need to bring something up be incredibly polite; treat them better than you would anyone else. They are more important to you than anyone else

5) Always ask if now is a good time to chat before you start into something that needs thought; being respectful is a way to express love

6) Be a good listener so you can learn what is important to your spouse. Asking what they like in all areas gives you love ammunition

7) Express gratitude for your spouse to your spouse and anyone else who will listen

Everyone is open to positive communication and your spouse will love it when you make up your mind to be the best spouse who ever lived. They will change how they behave towards you, too… if you want more help with your marriage I invite you to download my book for free …Be joyous! Tell your spouse “I love you”