As far as I know nobody has asked to change the vows one makes at the altar to something other than “until death do you part” The idea of marriage being a permanent relationship that lasts a lifetime is tremendously important. The children who come into this world through a family need the security of permanence. Yet the statistics demonstrate a society that does not know how to make marriage permanent. Of all the skills learned in schools none could be more important than the ‘how to live’ skills everyone needs in order to understand and cultivate deep meaningful relationships. Yet there are no skills taught in our schools that even come close to teaching people how to be married. Nearly everyone gets married, and over 50% of everyone who gets married gets a divorce. It is not out of a lack of trying.

You Don’t Need To Be a Statistic

If you buy a computer or even a washing machine a manual will come with the product. Could you imagine buying a new camera and not having a manual with it? It would be freak out city! You would even be afraid to turn it on. Yet people get married every single day without having any idea of where 95% of the switches are that influence their relationship. Have you ever had a perfect relationship in your life? Well, this is the one you want to be perfect and it can be. But you need a manual. Here are 7 questions for you:

1. What is the leading cause of problems in marriage?
2. What are three things you should say to each other every single day?
3. What is the definition of marriage?
4. How do you make sure your marriage improves every single day?
5. What is intimacy compared to sex?
6. How do you protect your marriage from outside negative influences?
7. How do you have the best marriage in the world for the rest of your life?

The principles of right behavior in marriage are universal. Learning the principles and how to apply them will make your marriage the most amazingly incredible experience of your life, as it is supposed to be. You don’t have to take a risk that the anecdotes you have heard about being married or the advice your aunt gave you will work. Don’t leave your marriage to chance. Study marriage as if your life depends upon it. Don’t become one of my clients in five years because you couldn’t figure it out on your own. If you are like most people you’ve put more effort into planning your wedding day than you have your marriage. Now you have an opportunity to protect the most important decision of your life. You can and must walk confidently down the aisle and pathway of life.