Most people who start dating with the intentions of finding their soul-mate end up with far less than their dream choice. The Marriage Foundation has created classes for those who want to learn how to do it right. We can all learn more about marriage and how to get there, the most important topic of our lives.Take this simple test to assess own knowledge about dating.
Instructions:
1) Carefully read the question… there are no trick questions!
2) Pick out the answer you believe to be true, and the one you think is correct =)
3) Click on the wrong answers too, so you can see if you agree with the explanations
4) Count your correct answers!
1. Is there really such a thing as a soul-mate?
The idea of soul mates is not merely a romantic notion. Love is also difficult to quantify, but it is also very real
It is unlikely that you wouldn’t know your soul-mates when you meet them, but it is crucially important to make sure they are the right soul-mate for marriage before you mentally or emotionally commit to them for a lifetime
It is actually nearly impossible to connect deeply with anyone other than soul-mates, but it is not always a good thing. Some people are best loved from a distance; same goes for soul-mates
Those who study the sciences of relationships will be able to choose their destiny rather than fly where the winds of life take them. You deserve the best!
2. How will I know when I find the right person to marry?
Your friends and family will never know the person you are dating as well as you, nor will they have the ability to truly match you or discount someone. They may be able to set you up on a date or share something important, but it is your life and you are responsible for your choice. You need to learn how to validate your dates.
There are three levels of human connection: body, mind and soul. The soul is the deepest, but you will never open up enough if you don’t fully trust them. They need to be validated before you inwardly commit to them, or you will probably regret any rush to marry.
Your soul can see their soul through each other’s eyes, but it won’t mean they are a suitable life partner. If you are distracted by romance or any shallow experiences you can fool yourself. True sexual intimacy happens only when soul intimacy comes first.
By validating and preselecting your life mate/soul-mate you will have a safe and secure future
Love at first sight is valid, but not a good reason to get married. The reasons for marriage need to be grounded in practical things and long-term reasons.
3. When should we have sex?
Those who live by rule of how many dates they have before they have sex are more interested in sex than marriage. There is no logic that supports a program of counting dates.
Refer to the same craziness as the number of dates. There are so many things to learn about someone. You will know them when you will know them; it requires time and careful inquiry.
Hopefully you will be exclusively dating anyone who is even in the running and never consider recreational sex when you are on a mission to connect with your life partner.
While sex has become a point of focus in our society, the education around its importance as a tool of intimacy has not kept up. People wrongly believe that sex and intimacy are the same thing. Learning the truth that will sustain your love is vastly more important than a few moment of pleasure.
