Engagement Quiz | The Marriage Foundation

a.k.a. Am I Ready to get Married Quiz

Are you ready to be engaged? Is he or she the right one? Are you educated enough about marriage, relationships, family to make your marriage successful?

Whether you are already engaged, or about to become engaged, this is the quiz that will get you thinking about what lies ahead! Going forward in the right direction instead of off a cliff is a matter of choice!

Instructions:

1) Carefully read the question… there are no trick questions!

2) Pick out the answer you believe to be true, and the one you think is correct =)

3) Click on the wrong answers too, so you can see if you agree with the explanations

4) Count your correct answers!

1. How can I be sure that my fiancé is the right one for me?

Nobody is ever sure, you just have to hope for the best

Everyone says we look great together and all our friends are supportive

Even though my friends don’t seem too excited about it, I am running out of time and in the end you just have to do the best you can with what you have

I knew exactly what I wanted, studied all I could about relationships and tested my fiancé’s values without their knowledge

People who are fatalistic about who they marry can succeed if they never have expectations of their future spouse, unfortuantely an unreasonable thing to ask of anyone

Although it is nice to hear sweet things about our intended, the truth is you already know things about them that nobody else can. Digging into who they are, deep down, is an absolute necesity because people don’t change after they get married and their weaknesses become even a greater burden

Sometimes there are pressures that can force us to do something, and we pretend it will all work out because of our good intentions. We have free will so we can make choices based on our honest observations and calculations. Marriage is a lifetime commitment and we deserve what we get, good or bad

Just because the sciences of relationships and families is not commonly recognized doesn’t mean it isn’t available. If you do/did your homework and put in the time there is every reason to believe your marriage will work. Nobody should take even one step without knowing where they are going and that the footing is secure. Those who are smart will be happy

2. What is the best time to have our wedding: Spring, Summer, Fall or Winter?

The season that is prettiest and the weather has the best chance of being good… as long as it isn’t too close to holidays or ‘school starts’

The season is an option you can make based on feedback from your friends and family. Remember the date of your aniverary is what is important

Doing an astrological chart, by someone reputable, is the easiest way to choose. Choosing according to the stars makes your wedding more secure

All three above answers are fine as long as you focus more energy on planning your marriage than planning your wedding

Why not make everything just as you would like it? As long as you have studied relationships, marriage, marital communication and other associated topics your wedding day will be a step into a secure future

Typically couples plan their wedding with abandon because it is a blessed day that presages a long family line into the future. Unfortunately we have lost too many marriages due to too little marital education. Be wise and secure by studying the most important topic of your life: your marriage!

3. When is the best time to plan a family?

After being married for a couple or three years, as you see how things are going, that is a good time to begin discussions about having a family

The time to come to conclusions about family, with the ability to cooperatively alter them later, is before engagement

Speaking with your parents and in-laws about what they think is the best way to go; they have done it and can share what they know

Sometimes it is best to just wait until the time is right, and you will know when the time is right automatically

Family preferences are very important and need to be part of the criteria for who you seriously date. If you have reached a point of being engaged without having done so it means there are far too many other important topics that need to be discussed. Don’t be afraid to bring them up now; later will probably be too late for openness and candor.

Couples who wait until commitments are made (exclusivity, engagement, etc.) find themselves experiencing resentment over issues that could have been resolved without ongoing drama. When people buy a house they scrutinize every little nook and cranny of the house, the deal and the future of their considered peoperty. Choosing your life’s partner requires far more investigation and agreements. It is the agreements of the parts that make the agreement to marriage valid. The importance of creating a family from a secure marriage cannot be understated. The statistics about what happens to individuals who come from broken homes, through no fault of their own, defines how important it is to make marriages too good to wreck. The descisions that go into deciding to have children are too important to take up after marriage, or even after engagement. Learning about marriage, in all its aspects, is a crucial responsibility, that happens to bring great joy

The knowledge required to have a successful family is far too extensive to risk trusting you will get what you need from even the most successful families. You need to get a full and objective education based on sound principles that work in all applications

Trusting intuition instead of investing your time in education is a cop-out or lack of appreciation for how much science has been accumulated in the areas of marriage and family. It is true that many sources, regulated or not, are unreliable, but it is up to you to choose a source of education that meets your challenges for efficacy