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Paul Friedman | Founder
Saving Marriages Since 2001

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Individualized Marriage Saving Courses
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Hi, I’m Paul Friedman, founder of The Marriage Foundation. Over the last 25 years, we’ve helped thousands of individuals save their marriages—not through therapies, but through a proven step-by-step system that brings back happiness, harmony, and unconditional love. If your marriage is struggling, you don’t have to go through it alone.  We understand how personal and sensitive these challenges are. That’s why everything we offer is 100% private and confidential. Our online courses for men and women are designed to work at your pace, in your space—with a 3-day free trial and a 30-day money-back guarantee. You can also explore our books, audiobooks, and podcasts. When you’re ready to start healing, we’re here to help. Quietly, effectively, and without judgment. Let us help you find your way back to each other.

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"Thank you. This is helping me look at myself and my part in our dysfunctions. I was thinking of ending our marriage after 14 years because I was not able to find the love I had. Now I clearly see hope…and I am a marriage counselor!"
Sandy
"The SEW is going well! I am feeling and behaving with love and feel that "shift" from the business mentality with expectations to love with no strings attached."
Dana H.
"This course really helped me calm my mind down and now I respond to my wife and kids in a loving tone."
Terry

Over 25 YEARS - WE HAVE RARELY SEEN A MARRIAGE WE COULD NOT HEAL

Scientific, spiritual, and effective. Our specialty: The solo-approach to healing the “impossible” and “near impossible”

Is Our System Right for You? Our System Works

Whether you came across Paul’s videos, read his articles, or heard about us from clergy or a friend, we appreciate your interest in exploring what we offer to save and vastly improve your marriage. Paul’s background as a divorce mediator means his “achieve positive results, quickly” agenda is an important part of recovery. We are uniquely qualified to help you. Our women’s and men’s courses include proprietary systems, techniques, and methods, that have a proven track record spanning nearly 23 years and thousands of users. It is our experience, not psychological theory, that has guided our fine-tuning along the way. You will achieve the same goals you had when you got married: happiness, love, and harmony. With an emphasis on practicality our courses are individualized by gender. Our women’s or men’s course will bring your marriage’s true potential through real marital education, not the psychobabble and wild ideas so common in the world, today. We will encourage you, knowing how difficult this is for you, as you follow specific steps to calm things (and yourself) down and begin improvements. We guaranty that you will experience quantifiable improvements, and very quickly. Our effective approach is simple. You will, by taking each step lined out in the course, individually, heal yourself, and your marriage. This is the ultimate process. It works the best and is the fastest way that heals and creates permanent happiness, no matter how terrible things seem now. Later, if your spouse asks to get their course you may add them at a generous discount. You will still get the discount weeks, months, or even years later. Its better to let your spouse decide whether they want to, themselves, without pressure. If they already chose to take the course you can sign them up after you sign up and they will be able to start right away. Within days, often within the 3-day free trial period, you will experience a profound and telling transformation, both within yourself and then your marriage. Everything gets better, and better, and better. You will see how the changes you make and the natural personal growth you go through goes hand in hand, causing measurable positive changes in your marriage. From communication to intimacy, to overall harmony, everything gets better. What you learn and apply will change the direction of your marriage and all of your life, including with your kids, friends, and everyone else. You will discover this to be all you ever needed. Your marriage and everything else WILL get better, progressively, layer by layer, step by step. The achievable goals we all seek are happiness, love, and harmony. To be sure you never lag behind your questions are answered our TMF marriage counselors are always there for you when you need them. The counselors and the course are yours for life, you can access the course online anytime, and from anywhere there is internet access. We know some are not sure whether their marriage “is worth it” or can survive what they are going through. That’ why we include a 3-day free trial period followed by a 30-day guarantee. We do not want you to give up, not easily, anyway.

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"I have been adopting the SEW technique over the past 3-4 weeks and things have really calmed down between us. We are able to have decent conversations and when things flare up I immediately utilize the SEW technique which I am now practicing every day."
Irish T.
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"I was looking for marriage counselors to help me save my marriage. When I found Paul's approach, which is completely different from them, I liked It, it gave me hope and everything he says is true."
Diane

Our System Works

Paul Friedman was a San Diego divorce mediator. In 2001, A couple sent by their therapist for a divorce asked him to save their marriage, rather than dissolve it. Therapists mean well but cannot heal rifts between husband and wife. They usually make things worse. Paul’s earliest conclusion: Marriage healing requires a combination of these simultaneous approaches 

  1. Stop undermining your happiness connection. It’s common sense. Adding gasoline to a fire makes it worse. Continuing what you have been doing will only maintain the current negative trend. Instead, transform your marriage, starting with yourself. It may seem complicated or counterintuitive, but we have thousands of successes to prove it works. No matter how bad things are, confrontation, blame, demands, ultimatums, boundary setting, and all the usual stuff make things worse, eventually leading to divorce. Ours is the best way to stop destructive thoughts and anger and end attacks. Learn how to be unaffected by your partner’s behaviors and “attacks.” Unfortunately, commonly held beliefs about marriage fill the airways, and people don’t know. Worse, most of us think we know. Learning the art of marriage differs for men and women. That’s why we have an individual course for you based on gender.  
                                      A few misconceptions many men and women share: 
    * It is normal and okay to argue- Untrue – “fools argue, wise men discuss.” 
    * Talking things out helps – Not at all. This idea has killed millions of marriages by emphasizing negatives.  
    * There is a honeymoon phase… When you know what you are doing the honeymoon lasts a lifetime, even when your spouse doesn’t want to heal your marriage. 
  2. Learn Connection Building. It’s a different process depending on if you are a husband or wife; both works. Nobody else has the step-by-step process Paul created and teaches. It progressively brings you back to happiness, love, and harmony. No therapy, It only takes one (both may take their individual courses but please don’t push your spouse), and the milestones are clearly set out.
  3. Make Your Changes Permanent. Many accepted “myths” are commonsensically obliterated by Paul’s cutting-edge approach to what many think are impenetrable obstacles.  
    * The toughest cases CAN be saved – Over 25 years we have worked with people convinced their marriage was done. See the few exceptions listed below. 
    * Love is never gone or grown out of. It is buried under debris waiting to be resurrected. 
    * Everything will be forgiven. The course is a way to love, and time heals all. 
    * Your anger will be eliminated, not just “managed” using Paul’s techniques. 
    * Betrayal is a wake-up call, not the end of your marriage. 
    * There is no backsliding. Some techniques are for your lifetime. 
    * You will go far beyond ‘conditions’, ‘issues’, and ‘impediments’   
    * Our process is effective, tangible, and complete. You will never need anything else. 
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"I have been adopting the SEW technique over the past 3-4 weeks and things have really calmed down between us. We are able to have decent conversations and when things flare up I immediately utilize the SEW technique which I am now practicing every day."
Irish T.
Click here to learn about TMF’s marriage-saving approach
"I was looking for marriage counselors to help me save my marriage. When I found Paul's approach, which is completely different from them, I liked It, it gave me hope and everything he says is true."
Diane
"Hello Counselor, Just saying hi and thanks. In September my husband told me he was having an affair and wasn’t sure he wanted to stay married. With your help, I have been working really hard- sometimes I slip up and that’s usually when I write in. The responses always get me back on track. Here I am some months later preparing to celebrate our wedding anniversary! September seems like a lifetime ago and I’m still reviewing the course material periodically. I just want to say thanks for the support and the lessons. I am truly seeing the vast power that I have in my marriage - just as you said. God bless you all."
Juliana K.

Most Important is that Your Marriage Will Improves

The only thing is that matters is that you experience real improvements. Like so many others before you, we will first guide your steps. Whatever are the conditions that brings you to us, those will be left in the past and you will have what you deserve, happiness, love, and harmony. It is true that ours is not always the “easy way” because you will be asked to change how you see yourself and your spouse, so that you can have the marriage of your dreams. It is simply not too late. Paul proved that so many times that for us to guide you only means relying on our experience. We explain the ‘work’ that you will need to do, and NEVER blame or criticize you or your husband or wife.

Although it is easy to forget right now, marriage is still based in love… and so are our teachings. Our system is scientific and methodical, and time-tested for nearly 23 years. It is proven and that’s important. Now is not the time to be a “test case”.

What you learn and apply will seem like you always knew it because it is within you to love. This will serve you forever as your guiding and trusted “Marriage Manual”. Never again will you fall into the traps that brought you and your marriage from happiness to stress. You will learn what happened so you never have to suffer, again, and you will create lasting incredibly positive changes, not just for a few days or weeks but for the rest of your lives. TMF methods, techniques, and system is transparent, and it reliably makes your individual efforts create definite results.

We are not fancy. No horns will blow, no bells will ring. What you learn you is simple. You will be using our exclusive SEW technique™ , to turn habitual and Instinctive reactions, including anger and worry, Into wisdom-based responses. You will no longer be inwardly or outwardly reactive. Using our unique SEW technique™, formulated by our founder Paul Friedman, you’ll make deep, lasting, and permanent transformations from within. You will no longer be a slave to anger, emotions, fears, or moods. You will be happy. You will change your marriage in ways that are now undreamed of.
"Hello Counselor, Just saying hi and thanks. In September my husband told me he was having an affair and wasn’t sure he wanted to stay married. With your help, I have been working really hard- sometimes I slip up and that’s usually when I write in. The responses always get me back on track. Here I am some months later preparing to celebrate our wedding anniversary! September seems like a lifetime ago and I’m still reviewing the course material periodically. I just want to say thanks for the support and the lessons. I am truly seeing the vast power that I have in my marriage - just as you said. God bless you all."
Juliana K.

Our 12-week courses are online, available at your convenience.

You can and will watch them over and over. When you need more help our TMF Marriage Counselors are ready to answer any and all of your questions – no criticism, judgment, or blame; just clear and concise help.  Our mission is simple; show you the way to have the marriage you always dreamed of. Not overnight, because that’s impossible, but with step-by-step progressive tasks.  
 

Most come across Paul’s videos, read his articles, or heard about us from clergy or a friend, so they already have a feel for what is in store for them. But even if you have never heard of Paul, our approach is incredibly user-friendly.   

We want you to achieve positive results quickly.

Speed of recovery is important. Your inner changes will create outer results faster than any other method, as experienced by thousands of our users for over 25 years. Universal truth and principles combined with our experience, not psychological theory, has guided our fine-tuning along the way. You will achieve the undreamed of goals you had when you dated.  

Your marriage and everything else WILL get better, progressively, layer by layer, step by step. Happiness, love, and harmony will be yours. Your marriage is worth it! It will survive what you are going through. Now is the time to take the path to happiness. 

"My husband was in tears and told me that he loves me. Thank you for your positivity and all the reassurance. I now know that I’m on the right track in getting my marriage back and better!!! You are AWESOME!!! God Bless You!"
Kate M.
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Your own happiness has to come before your marriage will improve

This seems like a conundrum, but it isn’t. Paul saw that everyone who struggled with their marriage was further impacting their marriage with their fear and tenseness. Your own happiness cannot be dependent on your marriage, but individual and marital happiness is a circle cycle. When your marriage is working it makes you happy, and when you are happy it affects your marriage, both feeding each other. That’s why we make calmness and inner happiness a priority along with focusing on the marriage.

In the course, you will learn foolproof techniques to be calmer, less worried, and increasingly more fun to be with, as well as much happier within yourself. Soon everyone will notice, especially your partner. That happens in the beginning, much faster than you can now imagine. The process Paul developed is progressive, bringing you out of the mess and up to happiness step by careful step.
"Hello, this program finally clicked for me about a week and a half ago. I have been able to change negative thoughts to thoughts (and thereby actions) of love. I feel love for my husband and am seeing him in a different way. It has been life changing. He has been treating me with love also. Doing things that he hasn’t done for me in a long time. It’s been so beautiful"
Cassey T.

ABOUT
THE MARRIAGE FOUNDATION

For over 22 years and thousands of successes, The Marriage Foundation remains dedicated to helping individuals like you who are experiencing failure, or just a decline in the core pillars of marriage: happiness, harmony, and unconditional love. Our mission is to guide you in reclaiming these essential elements of a healthy and fulfilling partnership. Let us be your trusted companion on this journey towards restoring the happiness and unconditional love that you deserve in your marriage.

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This course provides a guided pathway to happiness, marital love, and harmony. You are supported by our team of TMF marriage counselors who will support you as you learn the steps to take and the essential rules you need to have a successful marriage.

Although we are not affiliated with any specific religious organization, we recognize that love and marriage are spiritual gifts of the highest order. That’s why our teachings are rooted in universal principles, relevant always. Without any contradiction you will learn a scientifically methodical system that progressively changes you and your marriage into a heaven on earth.

“I have a burden for marriages in my church and community and family. Jamie, my wife, and I have adapted the principles of Marriage Foundation and it revolutionized our marriage. We are 54 years wed but only in the past few years have learned the keys to happy and enduring love through your materials and concepts.” – Justin

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ALL OF OUR PLANS BEGIN WITH A
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Our Marriage Courses are for individuals, you may add your spouse later, at a discount.

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✅ Men’s & Women’s Online Course
✅ Unlimited Email Counseling
✅ 30-Day Guarantee
✅ 3-Day Free Trial

MEN

$39.95 / month

Less than $10 a week
13 PAYMENTS

WOMEN

$39.95 / month

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13 PAYMENTS

WOMEN

✅ Women’s Online Course
✅ Unlimited Email Counseling
✅ 30-Day Guarantee
✅ 3-Day Free Trial

$479.95

FULL PAYMENT

$97.95 / month

5 PAYMENTS

$39.95 / month

13 PAYMENTS

MEN

✅ Men’s Online Course
✅ Unlimited Email Counseling
✅ 30-Day Guarantee
✅ 3-Day Free Trial

$479.95

FULL PAYMENT

$97.95 / month

5 PAYMENTS

$39.95 / month

13 PAYMENTS
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Paul's Books

Paul wrote two books to help people with their marriages. They contain essentially the same material but while “Lessons for a Happy Marriage” is simple and effective, teaching proper marriage behavior from a bird’s eye point of view, “Breaking the Cycle” goes deeper with explanations because he wrote it for his first marriage counselor trainees. The trainees would of course receive live training, too. But it acted as their textbook (now we offer online marriage counselor training).

Many thousands of individuals and couples keep one or both of these books on their nightstand and read to each other from their pages every night, instead of watching commercials on TV or scrolling on social media. But if social media is your thing, then we recommend listening to Paul’s videos on our YouTube channel.

Warning: If your marriage is in serious trouble just learning from the books will not be enough. You need the course.

LESSONS FOR A HAPPY MARRIAGE

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BREAKING THE CYCLE

Again and again we hear from clients, marriage counselors, and clergy that the principles taught by The Marriage Foundation are revolutionary because they unravel the so-called “mysteries of marriage” and reduce everything to practical do’s and don’ts. 

BTC is similar but deeper than Lessons for a Happy Marriage and we still recommend one of the courses when your marriage is on a steep slide toward separation and divorce.

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Susanne

“You are the sweetest, kindest person! Thank you for your pleasant, positive words! Please let me know where you would like for me to post my feedback, and i will do so. The Marriage Foundation has changed my entire world! I can't say enough positives about all of you! When all of you leave for the next realm, just what you've done for my life alone will give you the seats of honor next to Christ!

Words just can't describe what I've gained because of all of you! I can hardly imagine the scope of positivity you are all unleashing on this world! Wow! What lives well lived!

Thank you!”

Susanne

Los Angeles, California

Carrie C.

"Well, I have to say that if I hadn’t personally witnessed it for myself, I would not believe it possible. In 4 weeks, my husband has made a complete 180 and recommitted to me on our 12th anniversary yesterday. I told him that 13 is a lucky number and this is going to be the best year yet! He wants to do the couples program with me and add the men’s course for himself. We have a long way to go to ensure that current behaviors become permanent habits, but it is definitely all in controlling the mind. I can’t wait to finish the rest of the program and how can I not possibly share this with my friends???!!!"

Carrie C.

Orange County, CA

Alice P.

"Thank you! I have been wanting to write a card thanking you again for how much you have helped our marriage. It's the best it's been in decades. John has been amazing!"

Alice P.

San Diego, CA

Blayne J.

"I just want to tell you how much I appreciate Breaking The Cycle. It's life-changing, and easily one of the best books I have ever read in my life (and that's saying something... I read a lot of books!)

It has been nothing short of profound. I am putting everything into practice; and after years of fighting, I can happily say we have not had one fight since I finished reading the book. My husband has certainly tried to start several fights, but instead of yelling back, I practice the deep breathing & golden love emanating from my soul described in the book, and no fights eventuate.

Your book is the only thing I have found on this journey that made any difference."

Blayne J.

Phoenix, AZ

Jessica

"Thank you so much for these deeper explanations! I am filled with so much hope! I so long to feel God in these deep ways and be filled with the holy spirit guiding me. I’m there slightly but to fully open my heart and be joy and love and pure is such an incredible goal of mine! I can’t wait to continue on this journey"

Jessica

Phoenix, AZ

Khanh

"This Marriage for Men course saved my marriage!!! I tried many other programs including therapy and only this course produces real results. The only requirement is for you to listen to each and every video several times, yes several time, especially the ones on the S.E.W. method. If you master the content and using the SEW method, you will get results, save your marriage and save you soul and find love. I was not paid to write this. I just want everyone to know Paul knows what he is taking about and just listen and do what he tells you to do. Period."

Khanh

Phoenix, AZ

Deb

"Just a sincere message to Mr. Paul Friedman. You're advice and YouTube videos saved both me and my marriage. Still working on things but I found your videos at the perfect time Thanks for your wisdom and willingness to help others God Bless you"

Deb

Phoenix, AZ

Daniel

"Thank you so much. I am glad I signed up to this course. I wish I knew all of this some years back. But I know is not too late for me. I can’t change the past but I can have control of my mind and habits from now on. And that’s so encouraging, helpful and exciting. I am going to incorporate the S.E.W in my life and practice them as my life depends on."

Daniel

Phoenix, AZ

Paul N.

“Very impressed with the program!! I've tried many times in the past to make constructive changes in my behavior, but it was always very hit and miss. Now, with the understanding that the conflict between body and mind and controlling the conflict with will power will be a lifetime effort, I am feeling a sense of peace. A journey and not a destination is my take away. Thank you so much!!”

Paul N.

Denver, CO

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TESTIMONIALS

“Dear Counsellor,

Thank you to Paul and the entire TMF family! I made it to the end of the course and not only do I feel accomplished, I feel empowered. I have had a couple of slips ups when my emotions whipped me but I unburdened to a counselor and kept it away from my husband and importantly I didn’t share it with anyone. I am happy I did this course bc I recognized so many ways that I held back love from my husband and as I correct those – I am seeing subtle changes in him. I will continue to listen the videos in the car on my to work etc. I will continue to work on watching my mind and guarding my thoughts. I might still need to write to you, if I get in an emotional ‘battle’ but I hope not much. Continue to help and pray for marriages the world over. May God continue to bless you richly.”

Nelli Dalia

Albany, NY

“Thank you so much. I am learning so much through this course and I want to commit to it with all that I have. Thank you for teaching me a better way to live my life without being controlled by my thoughts and emotions. I want to learn the SEW more than anything.”

UPDATE:

“Hey there, Just wanted to give an update. As I’ve worked on myself and focused on making all of my interactions with my wife positive experiences where I’ve been intentional to be respectful, courteous, considerate, kind, and helpful with the kids and a number of things, I’ve seen progress every day. My wife is engaging me in conversation. Two days ago, she brought me lunch. Tonight, she told my son to bring her phone over to me so I could watch the video on it and laugh with them. I felt a very good moment there as she watched me and waited to see my laughter as I watched it. These are all good things and I seem to see more of them every day.”

Jeffrey C

New Haven, CT

“Hello, I know I have so much work to do, but I think this program finally clicked for me about a week and a half ago. I have been able to change negative thoughts to thoughts (and thereby actions) of love. I feel love for my husband and am seeing him in a different way. It has been life changing the past week. He has been treating me with love also. Doing things that he hasn’t done for me in a long time. It’s been so beautiful”

Sonia L

Olivette, MO

“Dear Team!

I hope you are all doing well!

I confess that it took me a LONG time to complete the course! Although some of the knowledge has been there, controlling my mind and emotions were so so hard! The problems would always speak louder, and I would continue with my old behavior! It was only until I heard my husband say for the first time the word divorce! It shook me! I ran to Paul’s YouTube page and found his advice in regard to what to not do if your husband asks for a divorce! I tried to follow the steps and also ran back to complete the course! I can say that once my behavior shifted my husband’s mood also shifted INSTANTLY! The house was a lot more peaceful, I was taking accountability for my behavior and mistakes, my feminine side started flourishing and he calmed down! I am now going through the course again and will continue to do so until I am the person I truly want to be! I am truly focused on me and my growth and looking forward to do everything with love from now on!”’

Michele W

Honolulu, HI

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VIDEOS

Watch videos of Paul answering specific questions from viewers.

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PODCAST

Listen to our podcast as our founder, Paul Friedman and his co-host, David Kruse, discuss a wide range of marriage related topics and social issues.

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ARTICLES

Paul has written many articles on marriage for you to read.

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