Whether you are the queen (woman) or the king (man) of your domain, your marriage kingdom must be brought back to the orderly splendor of happiness that it once was, or better. Although “on paper,” it seems logical that a combined effort would be needed, it is not. Our specialty is the solo approach. Privately, every couple's counselor will acknowledge the pitfalls of couples counseling
Many of our course takers had tried both individual and couples counseling. We were their last resort. They found all they needed.
TMF saved my marriage and my life. It enabled me to forget the past, no matter what happened. It lifted a big weight off me. There were no feelings of resentment, bitterness or hurt anymore. It didn’t matter how I was treated. It didn’t affect or phase me. There was a free feeling and the ability to rise above it all. No more subconsciously blaming or being angry inside.
I just want to testify! I am committed to the SEW method and began seeing results right away and have been so inspired and motivated because it works!! But this success is on another level!!! My husband had not asked me out on a date in at least 2 years. We went separate ways and tolerated each other from a distance. This morning he asked me if I wanted to go to one of my favorite restaurants and I screamed saying you’re asking me out, yes, I’m so excited, and he smiled. It was priceless! Our marriage is being restored and it’s wonderful to have tools that work!
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The majority of our clients are women who have found their husbands are in an active affair. These affairs range from a surprise emotional hookup to an active, or sexual affair, to multiple affairs, past and present. Infidelity was Paul’s specialization since 2001, and we remain the premier experts in this area. The 12-week online course is the most realistic solo approach we know of, and better, by far, than couples counseling. Rather than dealing with the crisis at hand, which always creates expanded crises, Paul guides you to change the very dynamics of your marriage. It is highly effective. (split test) We offer a special $100 discount for those in need. Click Here
Our online course forces you to dive right in with knowledge and techniques, not teasers, that prove themselves as you use them. The stairway to success is outlined so you can see how you will progress and the milestones you will hit. There isn’t anything mysterious. You will know right away that Paul’s scientific approach to marriage is a manual. Your successes are predictable and assured. Your marriage will not turn around in three days, of course. But you will know that what yyou are taught is moving you in the right direction at a steady pace.
Paul started saving marriages in 2001, beginning with a couple who came to him for divorce mediation but asked him to rescue their marriage instead. So naturally, he worked with couples at first, but he soon saw how many pitfalls there were in working with two. Competition, blaming, efforts to negotiate, a reluctant “other spouse,” and even flirtation hindered progress, in most cases. All of his psychologist friends confirmed his observations and said the same thing: do your best. Paul, however, refused to compromise. After one couple’s meeting, he worked only with individuals. Concrete results, progress toward happiness, and the restoration of love are a thousand times easier when working with one, and that’s why we have a course for each gender. Sometimes, the other partner sees the improvements and asks (never push your spouse) to get their course, which is sold as an add-on at a generous discount.
That is the right thing to do, of course, to keep your marriage intact for your kids, but Paul says that rather than endure your marriage, you can gain the actual benefits, which are happiness, love, and harmony. If you are going to take the course because of your kids, that’s fine, but you will get so much more than that. Never give up on the expectations you once held so dearly. They are still achievable.
Sex remains one of the most deeply misunderstood topics for nearly everyone. Even the expression “making love” is usually all about sex, not about cultivating and experiencing love. The needs and desires for sex are not issues for when either of you learns to cultivate love. Then it is a sweet part of your marriage. Paul approaches sex from a spiritual point of view. Rather than reducing sex down to orgasms and fetishes, you will learn how to use sex to cultivate love and connection.
Yes, we do, but not often. If you want to drive a car, you must learn how to operate it according to the scientific rules of the road. Then failure is rare. Similarly, Paul illustrates the mechanical components of marriage so you can realign your thinking, and it will run smoothly. You can’t just hop in the driver’s seat and take off. If someone expects immediate results in their marriage, they are not likely to succeed. But that is rare. Most people experience the benefits of Paul’s techniques and do the work of learning, absorbing, and practicing because it is so commonsensical.
The principles are universal truths that are the basis of all religions and morality. Paul has had many discussions with pastors, priests, imams, and rabbis. All agree that our teachings align almost perfectly with theirs. One does not have to be religious to have an incredible marriage, or even believe in God. We do, but we don’t care what your beliefs are; we only want you to be happily married.
The course takes about 12 weeks, and it is broken into modules that contain multiple video classes. They are released about every two weeks. The beginning is very important because it is where you learn techniques that will calm you down and prepare you for the future. Most spend at least the length of the video lesson per session, but it is up to you. Please do what works best for you. Most dive in as often as they can for as long as they can, frequently repeating classes. Some people stabilize and then put the course aside. That works too, but not as well as consistency.
Our reviews are all legitimate. Some people who haven't taken the course or even read one of Paul’s books got offended by something they didn’t like in a YouTube video (we have over 100,000 subscribers). Otherwise, our reviews are all unsolicited.
God gave marriage to us. He wants us to experience His Love and joy, not go through a living hell as happens when we don’t understand marriage. We have the gift of marriage to learn important lessons about ourselves, our spouses, and marriage, and when we get it, the rewards are extraordinary. But when we don’t, marriage is like taking your Porche off-road.
Paul says the purpose of marriage is to learn to love unconditionally. But none of us ever heard that fantastic idea, so almost everyone approached their marriage like a ride at a theme park, not realizing they had to feed and nurture it. Nor were we taught how to cultivate love and marriage. So, although we found our Rolls Royce when we found our soulmate, we never changed the oil or even washed the windshield. That’s why we don’t know that happiness, love, and harmony are the right expectations from marriage. But these precious gifts are not automatically achieved. But don’t worry, IT IS NOT TOO LATE.
Our system is based on love for you, your spouse, and your family. There is simply no need to figure out who did what. We don’t need any therapeutic “unraveling.” Therapy never works, anyway. Paul created elegant processes that are sure and true.
In 2001 Paul Friedman was a reputable and successful divorce mediator in San Diego when one of his couple clients asked him to save their marriage instead of ending it. It was already declared “over” by a highly respected marriage counselor so Paul accepted the challenge. As a divorce mediator, Paul knew that mental and psychological issues are NEVER the cause of marriage difficulties, nor was infidelity the true cause of failure. Every day good, sane, and “normal” people lose a marriage and family they could have turned into utter happiness.
The universal reason for marital unhappiness, suffering, and failure is nobody’s fault- it is a lack of truthful knowledge. It CAN be fixed.
Not too many centuries ago, scientists were put to death if they didn’t agree that tiny Earth was the center of the universe. These days that most people learn about marriage from watching sitcoms and movies, which are high on romance but un realistic about day-to-day married life. We are simply not taught what to do or how to live our marriage. Without a road map, marriage is nearly impossible. We would not try mountain climbing without training, but that’s how we begin and usually end our marriages.
Paul left his lucrative practice and spent 8 years working with the worst cases, creating teachings that work because they are 100% applicable. 25 years later his message of marriage truth is still gaining ground.