These 10 Suggestions Combined with Marriage Knowledge Will Change Your Lives
I am Paul Friedman. I was a successful divorce mediator in San Diego, but I became a marriage “saver” over 22 years ago when a couple, who came to me for a divorce, asked me to help them save their marriage. My marriage counselor friends, those who sent me their “failures”, suggested I help them “talk things out”. Instead, I dived into discovering marriage with a different intention. I wanted to help my first marriage counseling clients create real success.
The rest is history. My YouTube subscribers, readers of my books and articles, and those who have taken our marriage help courses have found true marital happiness by following the discoveries and processes I discovered. Our desire at TMF is to help you have the marriage of your dreams. That is why as a marriage communication expert I lovingly share with you this “unusual” list of what I know will get you on the road to marriage improvement.
God bless you. I look forward to your feedback.
#1 Never React
Once you react, outwardly, then a fight has begun. Even if your spouse has said something infuriating it is not damaging…until you react. Hold off on your reactions and hear them out. There is almost always something to be gained by listening. Reacting is just like getting into the boxing ring.
#2 Get Close
Snuggle up, take their hand, and open your heart. Marriage communication should always be loaded with love and there is no better way of keeping that in mind than keeping your soulmate close to your heart, physically, too.
#3 Remember They are Your Soulmate
You can always get your own way when your way is the way that works for both of you. Keep your marriage on the highest plane of love by always remembering who they are to you.
#4 Lightness is Always Better
Some things that may seem intense can still be seen and discussed more lovingly and without tones and emphasis that make you and your partner emotionally involved. Love is above emotion, so keep it there.
#5 Add a Compliment
Opening a conversation with a sincere compliment puts you on a path of happiness and harmony. Then, after you compliment, keep what you said in mind so you don’t get pulled down into unhappy ideas.
#6 Understand with Your Heart
The mind is a calculator, the heart is the soul, a love generator. Be in your heart, not your mind, and you will know each other in the way marriage is intended to be lived.
#7 Look into their eyes
The eyes are windows into the soul. Your soulmate and you should always use any communication to build a bridge to each other’s souls and this is best, almost as good as sex.
#8 Smile as Much as Possible
Smiles are like medicine. They convey contentment and love and soothe the mood. Sometimes it is all that is needed.
#9 Think loving Thoughts as You Speak and Listen
As one thinks, so one speaks. Always harbor thoughts of love and appreciation for your soulmate, especially while conversing.
#10 Replace Thoughts That Don’t Create Harmony
Be aware of whatever you say so you can turn thoughts of complaint and criticism into words of praise and connection.
About The Marriage Foundation
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