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Everyone gets sidetracked – Anger, emotions, habits, and reactiveness constantly interfere with our best intention to love and support our spouse. We get married to be the light in our spouse’s life, and vice versa. But we forget our promises, and more accurately, we never learned marriage 101. For a zillion reasons we are easily sidetracked from the promises of marriage.

There are times we can’t seem to help or stop ourselves, and hurtful and destructive things slip out. Cycles of reciprocal negative behaviors take over our marriage, until we can barely connect with each other.

Step one is to break the cycles of negativity; not just for a day or week; but forever

Those “slips” have to go! But intentions alone never do the trick. Maybe for a little while, but soon our intentions to behave well fall by the wayside. We cannot tell you how many people finally come to us declaring “I did my best”.

The SEW Technique is the right tool for dealing with detrimental thoughts, speech, and actions. It works on all your entrenched habits, and biological drives; like a hot knife through butter.

To help people stop reacting; both internally and externally, Paul developed The S.E.W. Technique™ . This technique is the backbone for any and all marriage improvements because its effectiveness in destroying bad habits and creating beneficial habits is critical. Without this technique changes never last; promises are empty.

You get this technique in the first section. That means even before you pay a dime you will gain an indispensable tool for the rest of your life. Saving marriages is not a “business”; it is our mission.

In the Anatomy Of A Fight™, which is the context within which Paul explains the SEW, you will clearly see, usually for the first time, where, how and why your words and actions come from. You will see how the wrong ones erode your connection, which destroys your marriage; shutting out the love and happiness we all got married to enjoy. Then you learn exactly what to do.

This is the kind of psychology we share with you. But it is not western psychotherapy. We do not believe psychotherapy has any role in marriage at all.

This is a simple and profound explanation of what makes your mind do what it does. Most importantly, at the crux of the matter, is that you can control your mind, and have use of your free will, ONLY when you learn how.

You will soon recognize how your mind is unknowingly driven by biological drives, and how to take back control.

You will see why the SEW technique is foundational to you having a happy marriage, and how simple it is. Only you can control you, and only you should control you.

Of the four distinct aspects of marriage, the “psychological” is personal and private. For the vast majority of people, our SEW technique is the only psychological tool they will ever need for their personal and marital “psychological” health.

The four aspects of marriage do not need to be studied by any other than our counselors, but we share them because they were mentioned. They include

1. The soul-connection aspect, which is the most important.

2. Marital interactionsz, including verbal and nonverbal communication.

3. Intimacy, lifting it above the mundane

4. Personal self-control, which is the psychological component.

The SEW, when combined with our collection of calming techniques you learn in the course, gives you all the right tools, all you will ever need, to stop the toxic infusions into your marriage. You rapidly regain essential marriage-friendly self-control, which allows the natural joy of marriage to once again peculate into your lives.

The SEW technique has wonderful “side” affect

Using the SEW, and associated techniques, helps you regain inner the peace and happiness that may seem so far away right now; and that is its primary purpose, and benefit.

The “side” benefit is how your spouse will respond to the new you. The changes, and corresponding responses, happens so fast, in most cases, that some people “test” the technique by abandoning the SEW; but not for long! Those personal tests always prove the indispensability of SEW. You never stop using it.

In some cases, when the trust has disintegrated too much, the positive responses will take a little longer. But because the SEW is so effective the other spouse finally recognizes the permanence of the changes.

Our clients tell us these techniques have transformed not only their marriages, but their entire lives for the better; and not just by a little bit. The only people who don’t benefit are those who skim through the videos and think they “got it”. They then realize that mistake, and go back to what we know are the basics.

This SEW step is fundamental because its impossible to make progress on your marriage without getting a handle on anger, emotions and reactive behavior.

Ending anger, resentment, and arguments is not enough

People get to the point where they think they are stuck, so they just want to “get by”. They think they would be happy with a 10% improvement but that is not good enough! You can’t partially fix your car’s brakes or your marriage and be happy.

We don’t believe in settling. Marriage is amazing; it is designed to be amazing. It is designed to bring you all incredible happiness, that gets better every day. So our focus is showing you exactly how to do that.

You do not have to settle

The Three Killers Of Marriage™ are not what you’d typically think. Things like infidelity, loss of loving feeling, disconnectedness etc. are all symptoms. The killers are outlined, discussed, and illustrated.

The most prevalent of these killers, present in every marriage that is off-track, is called “over-familiarity”. It is in yours, too. The other two are “poor communication”, which covers an awful lot of ground, and “business mentality”, which is all too typical.

However, it doesn’t matter how well you recognize destructive behaviors if you cannot

1. Stay determined to improve it. And your habits will continually force you back into the negative rut.

2. Build the soul connection that is supposed to be core of your marriage. It is what we all want.

So, although the good news is that once you begin to establish good, positive habits; even if you slip a little, your new intentionally positive habits will get you back on track.

The S.E.W. technique is a Godsend for slicing through detrimental habits, to reconfigure triggers that cause negative reactions with loving behavior; replacing hurtful communication with positive communication. (don’t worry. Its less complicated when Paul presents it in the video).

But remember, just removing the toxins and getting past the current hurts is not enough. The deficiencies will arise again and again unless you change the very dynamics of your marriage. And that is exactly what you, as an individual, learn. If your spouse is also attracted to our approach, great, but not necessary.

Your marriage will pick up a lot of positive momentum just by working on the SEW, and then learning about the marriage killers. It is amazing how much toxicity you will see you have been dumping into the most sacred of all spaces in your life.

But getting rid of the toxins isn’t enough. Right from the start you will begin replacing the negative detrimental behaviors with marriage building thoughts and behaviors. You will soon see the flowers of love blooming, again; like the day of your wedding; but much better.

If you’re the one taking the course, your spouse will definitely notice the changes in you, even if they haven’t said anything yet. They may be waiting to see if it will last. But you know it will be permanent because you now understand what it takes to make an amazing marriage. You will be using the S.E.W. technique daily, strengthening positive the habits that creates ongoing successful happiness.

With your developing habits and deep understanding of marriage, you start to automatically maintain your marriage as a Sacred Space™. This makes it easy to continue nurturing your connection, commitment, kindness, respect, intimacy, support, and love. Ultimately you will find your marriage will continue to improve day by day, every day.

Don’t forget the kids

We show you how your children fit within the structure of your “new” marriage. Saving children from the trauma of divorce was Paul’s real motivation for establishing TMF. He passionately believes that the number one thing children need is the love and support of happily married parents. That when your marriage is filled with love, raising good children will almost take care of itself.

By the time you complete our marriage course, you will know everything you need to navigate your marriage towards happily ever after. You’ll see pitfalls in the distance and easily avoid them. You’ll know more than most marriage “experts”. You’ll have become truly empowered in your marriage.

It doesn’t end there. You will begin to see your marriage as it should be seen; the happiest part of your life.