5 Key Reasons To Avoid Traditional Marriage Counseling
Most clients who come to The Marriage Foundation have already tried marriage counseling with dismal success. When you see as many marriages as we do, it is obvious why traditional marriage counseling is an ineffective solution to marital problems.
1. Marriage Counseling is a slow process
One aspect of traditional marriage therapy is that the first several weeks are spent “getting to know you.” There is no discernible progress on your issues, as you two continue to stew in your misery.
Too many traditional therapists spend weeks with small talk and back story, irrelevant to actually helping you and your spouse rebuild your marriage.
Our program begins halting the slide right away. The first lessons teach couples how to stop fighting because it’s impossible to have a happy marriage if you and your spouse are at war.
2. Results Are Rarely Good Enough
Our client shares his experiencewith traditional marriage counselors. (2:13)
One of the long held frustrations veteran marriage counselors have is that they and their colleagues practice different, self discovered, hit or miss methods that overall result in saving less than 10% of marriages.
Clients never know what they are going to get when they hire a traditional marriage counselor. Some counselors are good, some are not. We seek out the best counselors, train and certify them in our proven methods, then hire them to support our clients.
The marriage you desire should be the one you get. You need to know what to do about your situation, and how to move forward from there. Our counselors help you, as you use our program.
3. It is Very Expensive
Different counselors charge different rates, but most are around $120 for a 45 minute session. If your marriage improved after every session it would be worth it. But that is rare.
Most couples hang in for 6-12 months before realizing it isn’t helping!
If you have spent more than 6 months with your counselor, please stop and contact us right away. You should have turned your marriage around, or have seen significant progress within a few months, maximum.
Consider the following table. Even if you found the cheapest, bottom-of-the-barrel therapist and spent the minimum time, you’re still paying considerably more than the cost of our individual’s or couple’s programs.
Cost of Marriage Counseling | $45/session | $100/session | $200/session |
|---|---|---|---|
6 Months (26 sessions) | $1,170 | $2,600 | $5,200 |
9 Months (39 sessions) | $1,755 | $3,900 | $7,800 |
12 Months (52 sessions) | $2,340 | $5,200 | $10,400 |
Special Note
There are two very sad, additional costs from traditional marriage counseling that will likely impact your family.
1. The undeniable fact is that most couples who go through marriage counseling end up getting a divorce. It doesn’t matter whether the counseling caused it or just wasted the precious time the couple could have spent fixing their marriage. Most couples spend $15,000-20,000 just for attorney and court fees, and even more to liquidate and split their assets.
2. By far the biggest cost families experience is losing the love and security gained from a happy marriage. Children become devastated when their world (the love and support from their parents) is ripped apart from them when mommy and daddy are fighting in court, polarized by divorce lawyers.
Listen to us and our clients who have lived through it. Divorce is not the panacea the world pretends it is. It is far more painful than anything you can imagine. Learning how to be married is infinitely easier.
4. There Are No Guarantees
This is pretty much self explanatory. After spending thousands of dollars with your counselor, do you think they are going to give you a refund if you end up getting a divorce anyway? Ask them if they will guarantee their service before going to see them, and see how many will meet with you.
Our online course comes with a 90-day 100% money back guarantee. Test it out and see for yourself why our clients are very successful, without any risk.
5. It Doesn’t Resolve Fundamental Issues
When you go to a good traditional marriage counselor, they might help you resolve today’s argument. You leave feeling renewed and ready to try again. But the issues you deal with in marriage counseling are not the ones that lead to your problems.
Days or even hours later, you’re fighting again.
Why?
The fundamental issues all troubled marriages face have to be addressed in ways that prevent them from igniting all over again, in different forms.
Marriage is an exact science. It requires an education, just like learning how to drive a car or fly a plane. If you fly without instruction you’ll crash and burn. It is as basic as that.
What Does Work To Save A Marriage?
David Answer Questions About TMF (6:24)
At The Marriage Foundation, we know having the best marriage counselors is not enough.
The focus of our efforts to first show you how to stop the craziness of whatever you are going through. Sometimes it takes longer than other times, but our process works.
Then we show you what went wrong. Then we show you what a marriage is supposed to look like. Then, we teach you how to lay the foundation and build upon it.
If you haven’t already, watch the videos embedded on this page and listen to our client David share his typical experience working with both traditional marriage counselors, and then coming to The Marriage Foundation.
Please seriously consider these points before spending your time or money with traditional marriage counseling. You could be well on your way to creating a happy marriage over the next few days, long before even getting started with a counselor.