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Most people blame the pace of our lives and don’t give it a second thought simply going through the routines of a brief hello, eating together if you are lucky, and then…crashing. Is that it? Is that good enough? Well, I don’t think so and I don’t think it’s what you want, either. The time you get to spend with your soulmate is supposed to be precious, the moments as irreplaceable as the memories of your first meeting, when he proposed, and when your heart exploded with love for him the very first time. That’s why I put together this list of do’s and don’ts, so you can have it all, all the time.
If what I share with you seems somewhat esoteric or idealistic it means you need tis more than you thought. Let’s go!
#1 DO…Remember That You Married Your Soulmate
#2 DO NOT…Forget The Depth of Your Love
#3 DO…Remember What Your Husband Likes
#4 DO NOT…Forget Your Husband’s Unspoken Needs
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#5 DO…Stay In a Positive Mindset
Moat people think they are in a good mood or a bad mood because of this, or that. “Oh, that guy made me so mad, I could scream”! Nice try! You have free will, don’t you know? That means that if you choose to be happy, nothing or no one can make you unhappy. Those who walk around gloomy all the time are like psychological skunks that nobody wants to be around, and those who are on emotional roller coasters, sometimes up and sometimes down, make those around them nervous because they never know what will set them off. But those who maintain a positive and calm mindset are like honey to bees. Everyone, especially your husband, will cancel meetings just to be able to spend more time with you.
#6 DO NOT…Dump Your Problems On Your Husband
One of the biggest mistakes people make, thanks to psychological theories meant to pander to clients, is to think that dumping your fears, worries, and complaints, on those closest to them, your soulmate, is being “open.” No, it is not being open in a way that brings you together, nor does it lessen your burden. It is only going to cause more of the things that are unwelcome in anyone’s mind. Neither you nor he wants to entertain thoughts that are unhappy or worrisome. Hold off on anything that will “take the fun out of being together.”
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#7 Do…Remind Him He is The Greatest
#8 DO NOT…Call Him Out On His Flaws and Errors
Back to overfamiliarity with this one. Nobody, and I mean NOBODY, has the right to point out another’s flaws and errors yet misguided people do it all the time, not realizing how much damage they are causing to their relationship. Some argue this point but that is only because they think it does some good. But there is zero benefit, no matter what. You married your soulmate, not a saint. If something really bothers you it is always a weakness in your own ego that makes you sensitive. Working on ourselves is always correct. Working on your husband is never correct. Work, instead, on cultivating your devotion and opening your heart to him.