Nobody I know has ever asked to change the vows made at the altar, other than “until death do you part.” But you should have your marriage last a lifetime, and this ideal is tremendously important.
The children who come into this world need the security of permanence. You need security, your spouse needs security, so why should you let a few problems get in the way of your valuable needs?
Do not buy into the nonsense of “some marriages just don’t work out.” Do the work that makes your marriage a lifelong, joyous occasion.
You don’t know what to do? That’s because the approach to marriage in our society is pretty dumb. It’s like giving out driver’s licenses without requiring a test while building more cemeteries.
What You Need Is An Education
Marriage education is missing from your life. How can you ever expect to have a great marriage if you do not know how to be married? Getting married is easy, but learning how to be married is something different altogether.
Of all the skills taught in school, none could be more important than “how to live” skills in order for individuals to cultivate meaningful, authentic relationships. Yet no such skills are taught, none that even come close to teaching about marriage. Nearly everyone gets married, and over 50% of those marriages end in divorce. The divorce lawyers and child psychologists have a field day, while everyone else involved suffers.
How you think and behave in marriage makes a great difference to your marriage experience.The principles of correct marital behavior are universal, but need to be studied. There is more to marriage than behavior, of course. However, nobody is exposed to:
- What to expect.
- How to deal with problems (life always has problems).
- How to deal with insults and other abuses.
- How to hold onto peacefulness and happiness.
Marriage is the perfect incubator for ultimate happiness. Yes, it is true. But when you do not know how to do your part, all your time will be spent in anger and frustration.
If you are like most people, you’ve put more effort into planning your wedding day than you have your marriage. Now you have an opportunity to protect the most important decision of your life.
Before you walk down the aisle to say I do, be sure you have chosen the right soulmate for this lifetime. If you have, the next step is getting knowledge and understanding of marriage for your marriage to last a lifetime.