I wished I would have learned from TMF earlier.

For six years now, our marriage is stumbling in a vicious cycle of hurting each other. Actually, it has crashed and my husband endeavors to ditch me and our marriage for two years. We have attended two marriage therapists together before my husband decided he would be through with me. Out of despair, I have then attended two psychotherapists on my own. Finally, we have visited a divorce mediator. Altogether five experts with the result of even more damage because they all focused on the ditch between my husband and me which made it even larger.

I've read tons of books. Few come up with meaningful goals, tools and do's and don'ts. But none provides an effective technique of how to actually change things like TMF does.

By pure chance I came across the website of TMF. I had nothing to lose and signed for the video course. The daily videos are short, but each provides a vital insight which digs into your thinking.

Paul is simply perfect and I have no words for how much I appreciate him. In addition to the video course you can ask questions by email. The counselors answer sometimes within minutes. Don't expect any cooking recipes for your daily life. Instead, the counselor reads very carefully what you wrote and puts in a nutshell where you should recalibrate your mindset. This is far more helpful than concrete recommended actions.

Altogether, the daily videos which you can and should view repeatedly and the counseling are so much more helpful to initiate and implement a true change.

What makes TMF outstanding is their concept of marriage which is as simple as it is true. For me, the decisive difference to all other marriage concepts is the role of your mind and the focus on loving. That might sound strange for anybody not yet having gone through the course. During the course, I admit, I sometimes wondered: that's it and isn't it a little bit esoteric? However, if you get into it, there comes the point where you fully understand the truth in it and the tremendous effect on your marriage.

I don't yet know whether our marriage is already over the edge. I care a lot and hope for the best. I wish I would have learned from TMF earlier. Anyway, I am happy to have gotten into TMF now as it made me feel stronger than ever.

If I hadn’t personally witnessed it for myself, I would not believe it possible.

Well, I have to say that if I hadn’t personally witnessed it for myself, I would not believe it possible. In 4 weeks, my husband has made a complete 180 and recommitted to me on our 12th anniversary yesterday. I told him that 13 is a lucky number and this is going to be the best year yet! He wants to do the couples program with me and add the men’s course for himself. We have a long way to go to ensure that current behaviors become permanent habits, but it is definitely all in controlling the mind. I can’t wait to finish the rest of the program and how can I not possibly share this with my friends???!!!

Your book is the only thing I have found on this journey that made any difference.

I just want to tell you how much I appreciate Breaking The Cycle. It's life-changing, and easily one of the best books I have ever read in my life (and that's saying something... I read a lot of books!)

It has been nothing short of profound. I am putting everything into practice; and after years of fighting, I can happily say we have not had one fight since I finished reading the book. My husband has certainly tried to start several fights, but instead of yelling back, I practice the deep breathing & golden love emanating from my soul described in the book, and no fights eventuate.

Your book is the only thing I have found on this journey that made any difference.

I literally thought our marriage was done.

I wanted to thank you for your book. It has immediately impacted my life. I can't begin to tell you how much you have shared with us. Our marriage is now on the right track of recovery. When I first found your book I literally thought our marriage was done. Now it's not even a thought in my mind.

It has revolutionized my perspective on marriage.

TMF philosophies are so simple, yet so profound. I love how plainly and clearly they articulate what helps a marriage reach its potential. The foundational elements are so obvious (one would think) yet most couples let their marriages 'cool' by defaulting to pre-marital behaviors. TMF does such a great job of exposing this problem and explaining how it toxifies marriages. The approach's exposure of the mind's influence is key as well in that it helps people separate themselves from their emotions, allowing them to make conscience-based decisions. I tell clients frequently that I don't advocate for TMF's recommendations to prove them right, I present them and then ask clients to tell me how those principles can possibly be wrong. I see the approach as infallible: live by your vows…. and here's how you do that.

It's tragic that couples enter into marriage on the wrong footing. I don't just like the TMF System, I'm such an advocate that I feel it NEEDS to be shared to as many engaged and married couples as possible, and time's wasting. I find myself sharing with clients what Paul Friedman teaches daily, verbatim most of the time. I want to continue learning as much as I can about The Marriage Foundation's work and teachings because it has revolutionized my perspective on marriage, counseling couples and what my role is as a husband in my own relationship.

I think I've had a change of heart.

I was in the seminar today. Thanks to your efforts today, I think I've had a change of heart. The pathos came through loud and clear, and it motivated me -- it gave me a strong desire -- to make my marriage work, regardless of the time or emotional cost I have to incur. You're a good man Charlie Brown. Yes, you are making a difference.

It is having a positive impact.

We are half way through the course, and yes it is having a positive impact. Many thanks.

Best money I have EVER spent. It was worth every single penny.

12 weeks ago my husband walked out the door and told me he was not coming back. 11 weeks ago I was scrambling to find a marriage counselor before my face to face "meeting" with my husband to discuss who got what. The third option that popped up on Google search was The Marriage Foundation. It called to me like a red beacon on an ambulance.

I reviewed the text and introductory video and signed up right away. I was able to complete the first 3 hours of instruction before I had to meet my husband. What a gift. I cannot begin to explain how much I have learned and been able to implement over the last 11 weeks in order to salvage my marriage.

I use the feather and bowling ball analogy every single day!!! But I am guessing you have heard this all before! Even my husband has commented on the fact he can see how hard I am trying to change. Last night he ventured to ask me "who was that person that I was living with because it is sure not the woman I married?" I just told him that she came from a place of extreme frustration and that is the way i learned to communicate from the women folk in my family but he didn't need to worry because I have learned a new way and that crazy woman is gone forever.

I have shared with him that I am taking this course and that as Paul says "nobody teaches us how to be married. It's like going into the woods for a hike but with NO MAP!" He seemed to like that answer.

It has been slow going but my husband in starting to respond positively to my efforts. We are going out for dinners and more than anything we are talking. Really talking. He is not in a place YET to commit to moving home but that is okay. I know in my heart it is just a matter of time. Maybe it won't be in this particular house but i have complete faith we will be under the same roof eventually.

My anxiety is almost non-existent because I am now VERY AWARE of what is going on in my mind (I call it the soap opera when it starts up) and am able to shut it down when it starts (most of the time).

You know, it's funny (not HAHAHA funny either) that the 3 people I chose to seek advice from (my mortgage broker, my accountant and a 3 times divorced friend) all gave me the same advice. "Circle the wagons and get ready for war." The only people that asked "what are you doing to save this marriage?" was a client of mine that I don't really know personally, that has been married for over 30 years! Goes to show you be careful who you ask for advice!!!!

I am so grateful for the lessons Paul Friedman has offered to me over the last 3 months. He gave me hope. He gave me tools to actually use. His gentle guiding ways are helping me save my marriage. I am forever in his debt.

PS that friend that has been divorced 3 times asked me for the name of this course. ...I think I threw her off when I refused to just give up and walk away. That always has been my style though. Whatever everyone else is doing – i go the opposite direction!

Best money I have EVER spent. It was worth every single penny.

Love to you all at The Marriage Foundation. Thanks for doing what you do.

I'm blown away.

I'm on page 149 of Breaking The Cycle and I'm blown away! It all seems so simple when put into words. It's written so clearly and so easy to grasp. I can see how it can really have an impact on people who think their relationships are done. I can't thank you enough for sharing your work with me. I will definitely be recommending it to others. I'm going to put the effort in with my marriage. I'm guilty of a laundry list of things I've been personally doing after reading. I'm optimistic about how I can change me and my mindset to help my marriage, knowing I can't change my spouse. I hope to finish the book today actually. I'm hooked!

You were literally our last chance.

You were literally our last chance. My husband didn't want to go to counseling or talk or anything. The system really worked for us. It didn't take very long, and I hardly needed your help. But you REALLY helped when I really needed encouragement. Thank you, thank you, thank you.

Now we know how to work things out calmly and respectfully!

The fighting began before the baby... The problem is we are both so stubborn and always want the last word, instead of trying to sort it out. There is so much love in our relationship but it was always pushed to the back because of our constant bickering. Now we know how to work things out calmly and respectfully!

You helped us improve tremendously!

I never understood what a spiritual marriage was, or how to include God in our marriage. I am not religious and didn't want to hear all that crap (pardon the language). But now I get it! ...and I read all the self-help stuff by Tony Robbins and others but never understood about controlling the mind before. You helped us improve tremendously! Thanks!

Things are better than ever.

Some of what you said seemed really cheesy at first. But I have to admit, it worked and things are better than ever.

A transformation in my marriage.

TMF helped me find the peace I was longing for, from what seemed like an impossible situation. It caused such a transformation in my marriage, which was on the way to divorce. TMF continues to make changes for peace, happiness and beautiful love in our marriage. Because of TMF we celebrated our 35th wedding anniversary. In the decades of my experience, besides God and the Bible, there is no other successful marriage course like it. It is deeply appreciated.

My relationship was on the brink.

My relationship was on the brink till I found The Marriage Foundation. Now we are riding high and easy after making some of the changes outlined in the video course that the Foundation has put out! Great course that has changed our marriage for the better!

I'm happy and at peace with myself and my marriage.

I was enlightened by the course, it definitely helped me to make the right decision when I was at a cross-roads. I'm happy and at peace with myself and my marriage as a direct result of applying the principles taught on this course. In fact, I apply most of the principles in my daily life in general, really improved my outlook on life.

My clients are improving their marriages rapidly.

TMF principles have become an essential part of my practice. My clients are improving their marriages rapidly instead of slogging through a long therapy process, often getting nowhere.

I particularly like the instruction on egos and expectations.

The Marriage Foundation not only helped me to improve my marriage but also the relationships that I have with my friends and co-workers. I particularly like the instruction on egos and expectations. How often we mistake our partner's actions as disrespectful and unkind. How often we get angry because we simply don't know how to communicate properly with each other. I understand now that most of the problems I had with my husband were due to miscommunication. TMF teaches you how to listen, how to stay calm, how to get your point across. Everything that they talk about is so easy and makes a lot of sense, I'm very glad I came across them last year.

Common sense!

I have read this book several times. When I started, I was single. Even though the book is geared more toward people in troubled marriages, I found the education to be foundational to my now amazing relationship with the love of my life. We are engaged to be married and both she and I practice the principles taught in this book, which I've never seen or heard of anywhere, else even though they seem like common sense!

It's a helpful book to keep your marriage on the right path.

Friedman goes to the root of marriage problems by focusing the effort, improvement, and love on the individual. Other marriage books tend to tell you what the other person is thinking, what you can do to help change them, how to get out of poisoned relationship, and mainly focus on how much you have been mistreated. Not Friedman!

He truly focuses on how to improve your marriage by shifting the focus on how you can improve yourself. He covers all the basics, from the intimate encounters between husband and wife to the day to day little encounters through explaining communication, intimacy and loyalty (to name a few).

He writes at a level where you can understand, however still retains his professionalism - He is not condescending. He takes from his personal experiences as a mediator and as a husband/divorcee and offers what he has learned. I highly recommend this book to all married couples. Even if you aren't having martial problems, it's a helpful book to keep your marriage on the right path.

It makes so much sense.

I was actually searching for a lawyer when I found the site, just stumbled upon it and ordered Breaking The Cycle on a whim. I am very glad I did though. I'm sure you hear this a lot, but reading the book is like reading something someone wrote about me. The most amazing part is as I read it feel like I am learning something that I already knew, maybe just because it makes so much sense that I feel I should have known all along. I am getting so much from the book. When my finances are in better order I plan on ordering the courses. I know it will be well worth it. Thank you very much.

I never knew how to be married.

I'm currently taking the program for women and I can say that I do believe in what I'm learning because I have seen some changes in myself. I still have a long way to go because I am undoing several years of tension, disappointment and I never knew how to be married. I have been able to stop a few arguments, I'm starting to understand why my husband says the things he does and am trying not to take things personal. Thank you!

I am feeling a sense of peace.

Very impressed with the program!! I've tried many times in the past to make constructive changes in my behavior, but it was always very hit and miss. Now, with the understanding that the conflict between body and mind and controlling the conflict with will power will be a lifetime effort, I am feeling a sense of peace. A journey and not a destination is my take away. Thank you so much!!

It's the best it's been in decades.

Thank you! I have been wanting to write a card thanking you again for how much you have helped our marriage. It's the best it's been in decades. John has been amazing!

Thank you for inspiring me!

Thank you! I feel free, have joy again, and the confidence I'll have a wonderful marriage and life. Plus be able to have victory over weaknesses. Thank you for inspiring me! God's blessings to you.

He's beginning to show his heart.

My husband keeps ever changing to become better and better. He's beginning to show his heart. It's been a wonderful miracle! I'm not afraid anymore. My sister loves your book too.

Wish you continued success with The Marriage Foundation. (I've given some of your books away to struggling couples.) I will keep in touch.

Blessings

Now ready to be married.

Our son and his fiance have been studying Lessons For A Happy Marriage for a couple of months and it has changed their entire way of thinking and relating to one another. They believe they are now ready to be married. Thanks for your great work!

It really made my marriage happy.

Hello Mr. Friedman, I am Tanzanian. I really appreciate your service to save marriage, sir. Most of marriages in Tanzania today suffered extra-marital problem. The reason might be lack of manual like your book to direct their marriage, and lack of God fear. Thankx for your good marriage book, Lessons For A Happy Marriage. It really made my marriage happy, full of peace and love. Your book really works wonders! I wish your organization could have a branch in Tanzania. You could save a lot of marriages.

God bless you

We were going to see a marriage counselor, but I've cancelled the appointment.

I've found Lessons For A Happy Marriage to be very inspiring and extremely helpful. I am engaged, so not yet married, but wanted to address some of the important issues that you write about in your book before our wedding.

You are correct...it does take a paradigm shift in my thinking and actions, but it all makes good sense. We were going to see a marriage counselor, but after reading your book, I've cancelled the appointment.

Thanks again for the great work.

You really speak from the heart.

I have read your blog and insights before. Impressed! Mostly because you really speak from the heart with deepest insight that can only be gathered through experience, both personal and with your clients. I've ordered your book. Thanks for sharing yourself so authentically!!

I am a licensed educational psychologist.

I am a licensed educational psychologist. I downloaded your book and started to read it. It is very well written and informative. It is much better than many of the books at Barnes and Noble in the relationship and self-help sections that I have read over the years. Kudos to you for writing it.

The Marriage Foundation is the future of marriage help.

I have met many talented and wonderful marriage therapists who are frustrated with traditional marriage counseling. Many of the frustrations we professionals face include the lack of consistency in practices among therapists, the lack of recognition of the deep spiritual aspects of the marital relationship, and ultimately the lack of results in helping couples. Therapy sessions often become a place for couples to vent toward their spouse and drive each other further away from intimacy, instead of creating a space of loving harmony. I believe The Marriage Foundation is the future of marriage help and is the best platform for not only couples seeking help, but also for marriage counselors dedicated to providing that help. TMF's vision for the future is to reestablish the ideals of marriage: the ultimate relationship of unconditional love and harmony.

I highly recommend The Marriage Foundation's training.

I highly recommend The Marriage Foundation's training as they are on the cutting edge of treatment for couples that are struggling. I have found their approach invaluable in working with my clients. Their education focused protocol gives therapists and their clients tools that are practical and immediately usable. When I first learned these techniques, they made sense from the beginning. My clients feel the same way and are so grateful for the tools that The Marriage Foundation provides. TMF is an amazing consolidation of much that I was already doing with couples but presents it in a whole new and refreshing format.

Bring the sweetness back into marriage.

The most important principles I share with my clients are how to avoid the 3 Killers Of Marriage and how to bring the sweetness back into marriage.

We are still together and very happy. Thank you!

I did take the program and I love having it for a back up when I feel bad or confused. I am proud of myself for forgiving and letting go. Both myself and my husband are now doing great thanks to TMF. Life is looking good again, and I have managed to come through it. I have no anger in me at all and I certainly don't judge others when they make mistakes. Life is too short for that rubbish. The main thing is I don't let stupid things affect me anymore. We are still together and very happy. Thank you!

This material is accessible to all people, regardless of their faith or creed.

In over 40 years of pastoral ministry, I am always on the lookout for good materials on marriage. Several years ago I met Paul Friedman at a Starbucks and we quickly formed a friendship. It did not take long to see that he is a man on a mission, with a vibrant passion for marriages. Paul’s material is not only incredibly practical, but resonates with vision to see marriages be all that they can be. I believe any couple who engages this material will be inspired to take their marriage to a deeper, more meaningful level.

Although I am an evangelical pastor, this material is accessible to all people, regardless of their faith or creed, something I greatly appreciate.

Your work is very needed in the world.

I finished watching the training videos today. Your work is very needed in the world and I know many couples who could benefit tremendously from your clear and articulate presentation of the ideas about the reactive mind. Not only will taming the reactive mind enhance your marriage, it is the essential tool to bring you further along the spiritual path!

I have come very far because of this course and am very grateful.

I am happy I have ongoing usage of this course as it is so much material to cover. I feel it is a great back up for my current position, which is very good might I tell you. I have come very far because of this course and am very grateful.

I'm still married and doing great.

I'm still married and doing great, thanks to The Marriage Foundation.

Keep up the good work.

Love the messages on this site. Thank you, and keep up the good work you are doing for all of us.

It has given me hope.

I came across you website while looking for marriage advice, it has given me hope!!! Thank you.

It is greatly appreciated.

I would just like to tell you that the work I have started to implement in my marriage through reading and understanding the barriers that exist has really helped me and my husband. This program is fundamental to my understanding of what is keeping us in constant dysfunction. It is greatly appreciated.

I'm really delighted with the course.

I'm so happy to have the support I am now getting from you. I'm really delighted with the course and am very much enjoying it.

I Got It, Now!

Thank you TMF, I have found the lessons to be invaluable. I have read motivational books before by Tony Robbins, Rhonda Byrne, etc and I have never understood the concept of monitoring my mind the way you put it. I GOT IT NOW! Thanks.

It would be wonderful if you would consider making children friendly videos of these teachings so I can share them with my kids, i.e. where the emphasis is not on marriage as such rather general life skills. :-)

From Rock Bottom To Transformation

I feel very reassured to know that I have this program. It means everything to me right now, and certainly it is a tool I will use ongoing to keep my marriage alive and well. Things are going great for me purely from this new information I am learning. Going from rock bottom to a transformed relationship is nothing short of a miracle!