Premarital Articles

Without premarital education there are three things you need to worry about. One is divorce, Another is divorce after you have children, the third is living in an unhappy marriage …

I wasn’t thinking about newlyweds when I came up with this. At the time I was helping couples with their troubled marriages. But realizing the usefulness of tidbits that are both …

One would think the perfect wedding has to become a perfect marriage, just by all the planning that goes into it. Why else would a couple, and the parents, in …

Consciously developing infatuation into marital love is generally overlooked as something you need to “do”, because people are not taught about love in the correct way. There is some discussion …

There are three successive steps towards marriage everyone should take. First is “choosing well”. The second step is acceptance. And the third step is commitment. I will explain each of …

Can you imagine how traumatic it would be to find out through premarital counseling that you shouldn’t be together? Who in their right mind would sign up for that? Personally, …

I am not from the school of thinking that justifies problems, or gives you ideas for “dealing” with them. If you are having issues before the wedding there are foundational …

It is a fact that sometimes prenups are necessary, and in certain cases have to be written. But prenuptial agreements often cause long term problems which need to be discussed. …

A much better marriage does not come naturally. You have to create it. Marriage is like building a yacht and going to sea, except you have to build your marriage as …

Good sex can ruin your new marriage, but “bad” sex is only a temporary problem. “These days”, which began in the early sixties, with Playboy-type magazines and an “everything goes” …

There are a lot of things that go on before you get married, but fighting is not supposed to be one of them. The things you are supposed to be …

Some people think they are pretty smart, and don’t have to study up on anything they do. But we are talking about marriage now; not ice fishing or pastry making. …

We all heard the horror stories about how people change after they get married. But how many hear the other side of the coin? How some people refuse to change …

You already know the answer to ‘does your wedding officiant matter’. Of course they matter! Big time! But then what should you be looking for? If your officiant will matter, …

As more and more couples turn to premarital counseling because of our efforts to save marriages, there is a growing number of officiants who offer premarital counseling without education. Maybe …

Your wedding day will come, and go; no matter how modest, or extravagant. But there are three things which will stay with you for your entire married life. And of …

To say I have “seen it all” is probably an understatement. With years and years of mediation and marriage help I can tell you stories that you would not begin …

Some people think it is only in fairy tales that the couple is married happily ever after, but they also portray those couples as having a ton of wealth, and …

Of all the things required for marriage that you may have on your wedding planner the number one requirement to get married is almost always overlooked. The greatest requirement to …

The stories about people who get engaged right away, then get married within months, or even weeks, are very romantic. Unfortunately, we only hear about the ones who stay married …