Have you ever lied? Have you ever stretched the truth? Have you ever exaggerated
a story? Have you ever said something that wasn’t exactly accurate but was pretty close? Do you know anyone who is 100% pure? I don’t.
The truth of the matter is we live in a world filled with deceit. We can’t trust our political leaders or anyone else in positions of authority. Just about everybody in the world has proven they cannot be trusted.
The cause of deception is always fear. Even when the deception appears greed-based, it should be understood that greed comes from fear. When people are afraid of not having enough, they hoard what they have and try to accumulate more.
You don’t need marriage counseling. You and your spouse have brought the fear of being ripped off into your marriage. You and your spouse did not study marriage, so you did not know you were supposed to shift your individual thinking, allow for mistakes, treat each other selflessly, and employ a host of other marriage behaviors.
Marriage counseling will not work because you are not acting like you are married. If you go to marriage counseling, you will be given a place to vent your issues, but they will not be resolved. You will not be taught how to act like married people, it isn’t what counselors accomplish. You have to apply the right kind of actions. You have to:
If a marriage isn’t treated as a unique relationship, everything bad and dangerous has the possibility to crawl inside of it.
Additionally, marriage counseling will not work because counselors do not recognize marriage as a spiritual union, which has the ability of being exempt from worldly problems. They are trained to give therapy; but you need marital education.
Think of marriage as a sacred space in which you can be your true self; the self that does not have to fear, worry, or play games. In the world, everyone has walls and filters to protect themselves from the hostile environment they live in.
You don’t realize what you are giving up by going against principles that protect you in your marriage. Marriage can have an amazing fortress where nothing can get in.
You have to learn the marriage principles and how to operate within them so you get the protection of the marriage fortress. Marriage allows you and your spouse to have the unique and special relationship you envisioned when you were first married. Thinking marriage is hard work is nonsense. Thinking you need marriage counseling is missing the obvious.
Marriage counseling will not work because it misses the point. After you are educated, you will not need counseling. You may, at times, need some explanation of principles, but that is what The Marriage Foundation is here for.
When you learn how to be married, you will be amazed at what you didn’t know, and wish you had originally gone this route.
