Express Love In Your Relationship

Mankind is essentially spiritual. I don’t understand how people can discredit the unseen when they are aware of its presence all around them. Science has taught us the unseen is much vaster and varied than the material world we see every day. There are colors we cannot see and sounds we cannot hear, but we know they exist. We can’t see the wind, but we can feel the wind so we know it exists. Similarly, we cannot see love, but we can feel and express love so we know it exists.

Where does love begin and end? From where does it originate? Are you, as an individual, able to manufacture love? The answer is no, because you draw love from an unseen source. In fact, I will state it quite candidly. We are in a perpetual, infinite sea of love itself. When we seek love, it is like a fish in the ocean seeking water. The universe’s very substance is love. But because we have free will, we are able to close off that part of us that receives love and imagine it doesn’t exist for us; but it does.

In the temporary confines of our human selves we lose sight of reality. We imagine we have to find love, and when we find the right person, we express love. The world can feel like a terrible place when we don’t feel loved. We get into all sorts of mischief desperately seeking a soulmate. But there is a trick: We must recognize relationships as a very specific reality within this unreality, a safe environment where we can bravely give our love. When we have established a marital relationship, or our intention to marry, we open our hearts so love can flow without restrictions.

As a human being you are capable of loving every single person in the world. Why don’t you? Somehow you have it in your head that if you love everyone and everything, you become vulnerable. So, you restrict yourself and feel the pain of the restriction. Now I’m not saying you should become promiscuous or a flower child of the ’60s. I am saying giving love differs from expressing love. When you are in a safe relationship, e.g. marriage, you can express love fully, which is in fact one of the purposes of marriage. Being in a marital relationship benefits you when you show love in many ways. When you do, you open up a channel within yourself and feel and receive the love you give.

We have all heard the expression that the more love you give the more you’ll receive. It is a true statement but completely misunderstood. People imagine that giving love to others means getting love back. People want who they love, not those who love them. The saying actually means when you give love, you experience the love flowing through you. The fact of the matter is giving love allows you to feel it in more of an adulterated form. The love you give comes directly from the source of love, rather than the filtered version that comes from another. Does this make sense to you? So, interestingly enough, you receive far more love by giving it.

We are essentially spiritual beings who thrive on love because it comes from the same source we come from: God. To deny God is to deny love, and to deny love is to deny God. This is not a religious thought but rather a practical thought that allows us to enjoy our existence. There is no greater enjoyment than love. So please remember to tell your spouse or your significant other, “I love you.”